**Play "Lead Me On" (Use the > key to scroll down, click on the title bar of the playlist player to the right)
Planning and scheduling are good, but priorities and evaluating things is too. What is the motive, the heart set? What is the gain or loss? Is it worthy of your time (His time)?
When you look at an activity, personality trait, behavior, gift, talent, skill or just about anything you cannot help to think back to earlier times to compare then with now to see if you are getting better, getting worse or staying the same. That is my definition of Reflecting. This is a good thing, as long as it is done in a proper motivation. But, looking back is not good in a wounded spirit or if looking for things lost. Things are taken away to make room for new or better things, trusting God and staying in a good spirit helps to not "reflect" too much. If you notice, regret or anger or any negative attitude developing it is probably a good time to go to your priorities and look at those and remind yourself of what is important to you. And stop and pray, this is a time when the devil would love to get a hold of your mind and heart and take it to a place you do not want to go.
I like to alphabetize things, thoughts, feelings, books, whatever it just helps me break things into workable piles later and not have to keep reorganizing things, it also helps me see progress... when I get to L, I feel 1/2 way done and feel accomplished. Which brings us to the the system, I usually write it down, so I can look over it to see if it is the planning or something that I can change to make it work or if it is a problem with a personality trait or behavior I can really acknowledge it, pray about it and if necessary talk with someone else about it, After I talk to my husband. Even when things look really bad or out of control, they are not that bad, and no matter what God is in control.
If you are married, notice the reminders to involve your husband in this evaluation time it can be scarry at first but when both of you are in the spirit and abiding in the word it can be a great bonding exercise and really helps you both. Then next time will feel more comfortable, but even if you do not enjoy it, keep trying it is very helpful and important to work as a team, and he should be your first contact when you are struggling, he knows you best. If you feel disconnected or that he does not. Pray and then work on that relationship before any others, it will make all the difference in the world. If your not married, select a godly friend, explain what you are trying to do, ask them to pray about it, and get back with you. Make sure they are understanding and will be 100% honest, it will not help you if it is not truthful.
A is for accomplish- What does this accomplish? Have I accomplished this before?
B is for benefit and biblical - Is this a biblical thing? What does the bible say about it? What benefit is this and to whom? If others do they acknowledge, request and need this? Is this something worthy? Do I honestly "want" to do this?
C is for capable and Cost-Are you capable for doing this (consider limitation and disabilities) What does this cost me? Does it cost my family? Is it worth it?
D is for Disciple- Is this something someone else would want to do with me? Is this something worthy of teaching others? Is this something good for teaching my son?
E is for Eternal- Does this have any eternal significance?
F is for Fellowship- Will this assist in fellowship? Is it negatively affecting fellowship?
also for Forgiveness- Is this something I need to ask forgiveness for and turn over to God.
G is for Grace-???? Earthly I cannot explain grace, but from Webster's dictionary it means "favor or goodwill" and "mercy; clemency; pardon" which are all based on the giver more so than the receiver, you do not earn grace, it is given. That is how it is Biblical speaking and with God. and that is where I will draw my knowledge from and how I will "feel". Even though in the past it has been different, I am not going to allow that to cause my to feel or behave negatively.
H- is for hospitality- Is this assisting in my hospitality endeavors? Is this hurting my hospitality endeavors?
I- is for insecurity and interval- is this in an area of insecurity for me? If so get Husbands in put? Pray about it. Ask those that have "seen" or "witnessed" this or if a new activity research it and "take a trial" before commiting to a long term commitment. What interval is this occuring (daily, weekly, monthly, bi..)?
J- is for jeopardy- does thing put you in any physical jeopardy? does this put the family or the calmness of home in any jeopardy? Talk to husband about it.
K- is for kindling- will this help kindle a relationship? will this prevent the kindling of relationship?
L-is for length- what is the length of time involved, of commitment?
M is for money- does it cost any money? does it make any money?
N is for need- does it fulfill any needs? personally or family members or the family as a whole? What is needed for this?
O is for obsticles or opposition- Is there obsticles or opposition involved?
P is for Priorities- is this helping accomplish my personal and family priorities? Is this preventing me/us from fulfilling our priorities? Pray about it. Partner with husband.
Q is for Quality- will this add quality to my/our lives? Is this taking away quality from our lives?
R is for rest- Is this affected by the amount of rest I get? Will this reduce the amount of rest I get?
S is for satisfaction- What is the satisfaction in doing this? Is there any (negative) satisfaction in this? Does this bring satisfaction to others besides myself? If not look at needs and priorities.
T is for testimony and teaching- does this help with my/our testimony? does this teach our son a good thing or a bad thing?
U is for unity- does this unify anything? does this break unity? Can this help our family to unify in an activity that benefits others?
V is for value- what is the value of this? Who will value this? Does this need to be done or stopped to uphold one of my/our values?
W is for worship- who does this worship (people or God)? Does this affect my/our worship time?
X, Y and Z do not have anything assigned.
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